of understanding that maybe even forgiveness is too lordly and one-sided an exercise, given the general untidiness of the situation. Maybe there are injustices on both sides, and the two of you can just bring yourselves to shut up about the whole business. That may seem like a low level on which to deal with injustice, but I think I can make a case that it isn’t. For one thing, it has the same goal as forgiveness, but it doesn’t have the same high price tag. The object of forgiveness is the restoration